gone cloud hopping

I’d always watch my older sister. As she took the role of mom and dad when I was really young… I was always paying close attention. As she drove me around.. The way she talked to people.. The way she presented herself. Powerfully but never rudely. And from observing her I noticed that… At least once a week when we’d go to Starbucks… She would always pay for the person behind her in line or the drive-thru. And she still does til this day.

So when I got a good job 3 years ago… I picked up that pay it forward habbit. So now… I pay for the person behind me in line or the drive thru.. or if I miss a week or 2… I pay for the entire line. Also my best friend and I hand out Starbucks loaded giftcards to strangers in front of Starbucks.

So this evening I pulled up to the Starbucks drive-thru. Prepared to pay for my drink and the person behind me.. And the worker said “The lady in front of you already payed for you!”… I was so surprised. In all the years that my sister and I have been doing this.. We’ve never seen another doing this as well. I think it’s proof.. That although we are a small wave of people.. We are creating a wave of change with genuine random acts of kindness. Cheers!

I was talking to a man waiting in our lobby. And he said to me

“You’re going to be young forever”

In which I replied

“I get that a lot”

He then continued to say

“No that’s not completely what I meant. Yes you will look young for a long time. But I mostly meant that you will be young in spirit forever. You’re very good with talking to people. Very youthful in spirit. But still professional. And those are the best kind of people. They make great parents.”

Best compliment of the year.

Girls posting things about the person they like or the one they used to be in a relationship with. And about that person now seeing someone else.

And the posts always say something like
- I’ve been replaced by someone better
- I’ll never be good enough
- Maybe it’s me
- What does she have that I don’t?
- She’s prettier
- She stole him from me

I never quite understood how girls became ok with degrading themselves that way. You see… It’s not about that “someone else”. And it’s not about you not being good enough. It’s about you and knowing your self value. Relationships either work or they don’t. If they don’t work, you can’t force it. In the same way you can’t force a kid to eat food they hate or don’t want to try.

And if you feel replaceable, go find someone who DOESN’T make you feel that way. You should never settle. And you definitely should not be ok with feeling disposable. If a boy leaves you for another girl for looks… Fine. Then that means he was most likely with you for the saaaame reason. You’re not dessert. Nobody should be chased like a slice of cake. Respect yourself and never settle. Find someone who respects your being and beliefs. And who makes you feel the best in more ways than you could imagine. Not some asshole who makes you feel like shit. You don’t need that.