I’m thankful for first times.
The first time someone taught me to hold the door for others.
The first time someone taught me to say “please” and “thank you”
The first time someone taught me how to drive a car.
The first time someone taught me how to build a bike.
The first time someone taught me how to make beats.
The first time someone taught me how to cook for myself.
The first time someone encouraged me to venture off on my own.
The first time someone insisted on paying for me on a date.
The first time someone took me out for a cup of coffee.
The first time someone introduced me to sushi.
The first time someone introduced me to Vietnamese food.
The first time someone took me on a road trip.
The first time someone taught me about vegetarian and vegan food.
The first time someone encouraged me to always try new foods.
The first time someone fixed my shirt as I was leaving for work.
The first time someone fixed my hair.
The first time someone visited me when I was very ill.
The first time someone took care of me when I was very sick.
The first time someone took me exploring in another country.
The first time someone baked for me.
The first time I spent the Holiday away from home.
The first time someone sincerely told me I was cute.
The first time someone held my hand.
The first time I fell asleep talking with someone.
The first time someone told me that I give the best hugs.
The first time someone told me that I changed their life for the better.
The first time I understood what it was to genuinely adore someone.
The first time someone told me I was different, in a beautiful way.
The first time someone told me that they were thankful for my existence.
I’m thankful for all of these first times. Because every time I experience them again, I always think of the people I experienced it with first. All of which were very positive courteous experiences that helped me grow in some way. And all these experiences and the people I experienced them with, made me a better person. I am very lucky to have had all of these experiences.
I’d always watch my older sister. As she took the role of mom and dad when I was really young… I was always paying close attention. As she drove me around.. The way she talked to people.. The way she presented herself. Powerfully but never rudely. And from observing her I noticed that… At least once a week when we’d go to Starbucks… She would always pay for the person behind her in line or the drive-thru. And she still does til this day.
So when I got a good job 3 years ago… I picked up that pay it forward habbit. So now… I pay for the person behind me in line or the drive thru.. or if I miss a week or 2… I pay for the entire line. Also my best friend and I hand out Starbucks loaded giftcards to strangers in front of Starbucks.
So this evening I pulled up to the Starbucks drive-thru. Prepared to pay for my drink and the person behind me.. And the worker said “The lady in front of you already payed for you!”… I was so surprised. In all the years that my sister and I have been doing this.. We’ve never seen another doing this as well. I think it’s proof.. That although we are a small wave of people.. We are creating a wave of change with genuine random acts of kindness. Cheers!
The types who become so reliant on the ritual comforts of a relationship. Who’s moods depend on the amount of attention you give, or don’t give them. The kind that do not know how to adapt and who don’t know how to be happy with themselves. Because if you don’t give them the type of attention they want, they become an enhanced unhappy. Because they never got comfortable enough with themselves, comfortable enough to know, that it’s ok to be alone sometimes. To understand that being physically alone sometimes is healthy.
….It is the overdosing on the comfort of always being with someone, that has the potential to be unhealthy.
So please learn to be comfortable with yourself. It is the best thing you could ever do.
Or who feel as though they are behind in where they think they are supposed to be… Don’t you worry. I assure you that you’re not behind. We all have an important roll in this place we call earth. No matter how small of a speck we may look, in comparison to the 7.5 billion other specks. We all have our own pace. None like the other. As our occurrences with experiences come to meet us at such different spans in our life. Just as they should.
There are places to go and people to meet and see. Do not stay in one spot and wait for good things to happen. You yourself have to make the first move. The more productive you are, the more chances you have. The more chances you have, the closer you are to becoming a better you. Sure you will fall a few times or more. But without falling you will never learn improvement. And do not discourage yourself and talk yourself out of giving yourself a chance. Because fooling yourself out of a chance is the biggest mistake you could ever make.
But remember one thing though. The smallest specks in this population, cause the biggest waves. Don’t let anyone tell you different.
First off… I just have to say that this is quite flattering. So thank you for thinking of me that way. Not just you but all others as well. But you especially for taking the time to say such a kind thing! Umm… I don’t consider myself “successful”. I believe that success is a ride that is never ending. It’s not something that can reach and then you stop when you get there. At least not for me. For me, I am never satisfied with myself and my growth. I always believe that I can grow just a bit more. Slowly but steadily and mentally. Mentally growing while also strangthening and sticking to my gutt.
Honestly, I did not get a job that had anything to do with what I went to college for. Not that I would encourage people to “not” go to college. College is great. There are things you learn from going to college. And there is definitely a type of social growth you retrieve from going to college. And in this economy degrees do matter when employers are comparing your resume to that of another candidate.
To put it simply. I came from a poor family and I did not have parents to spoil me or to pay for anything. But I always had my older siblings. So because I knew that I could not afford things, I had to learn how to attempt to launch success another way. I got where I am today from just genuinely knowing how to talk to people. Not certain types of people, not a certain group of people, not one country, not one ethnicity, not rich people, not poor people… But all people. I just tought myself how to speak to people in a universal way. In a way that can not be misunderstood, simple but straight to the point. And that tool has been the most helpful and the most useful to me in my life.
I got the job that I have today just from talking. I started off at a low entry level job with zero experience. A month before my interview, I was considering being drafted into the military. Because I lost a job and could not find one for about a year. I was desperate. So when I applied to this company… I applied assuming that I wouldn’t even have an interview. Because I knew it was a big company and I was way underqualified. I didn’t even have a degree related to the company. I kind of just said to myself “I have nothing else to lose. Why not apply? Even if it is out of my league”
So when they called me for an interview. I almost died of happiness because I knew there was hope that I would not have to resort to the military. And then when I was preparing for the interview… I just gave it my all. Because I knew that I had nothing to lose. And I told them “If you help take care of me… I promise! I promise that I will take good care of you guys! I may not have a degree in the field. But I assure you that I can learn anything you can teach me. I want to work for a company where I will learn. A company who’s employees are taken care of because the employees take care of them!”
And when they said I got the job. I nearly died. Haha! And then… I got very lucky. Because the company that hired me actually sent me to college and paid for it all. And they paid me hourly while I was in college. They put me in a certified program. And they said “If you don’t like it here. You still have the certification from school, and you can use that to work somewhere else”… Which is very cool. From that point on… I just have been preparing for if I were to ever lose a job due to the economy. From that entry level job for one department… I also talked my way into working for other departments for the company. I actually volunteered myself for interning for a seperate department, aside from my regular entry level job. And I got hired as a paid intern. But because I talk to other departments and build a trust with everyone, it opens the door for future opportunities.
The key to it all, is that you have to have the willpower to learn; from a combination of bad tunrouts, criticism, and good feedback. To be a better well rounded individual. So I believe in being very good with talking to people, networking yourself and investing into more than one job. And more importatly, being able to adapt to the economy. But also liking what you do… And I’ve found from experience, that what you go to college for, might not always be what you want to do later in life. I never thought in a million years, that I would have the job that I have now. When I was a kid, I hated the subject related to the job I have now. But from just working in the field, I have learned that I love it. Because of the people involved, and because of the ways it has allowed me to grow, in ways I never thought possible.